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At this time of this writing, it is 00:40
It is after midnight and I know full well that in less than 6 hours I will need to get up, be ready for work and get my kiddo ready for school. And while staying up late has been a staple in my life–it was not until recently I looked up into the relationship between sleep, ADHD and autism.
Just a general search on google brought up an article on ADHD and sleeplessness. (Click Here ) Now grant it its one article, but After reading it, I cannot tell you how many explanations are directly applicable to my situation. I can also see how the science fits because of my brain neurology and body chemistry.
First: GETTING TO THE BED
My brain is still going several minutes after I had to lay myself down for the night. It is a struggle and I have to tell myself “GO TO BED” or I have to be almost to the point of nodding off. It gets better when I have a schedule and a morning commitment (so during the week) because I know I have to go before I’m actually tired. But if I don’t have somewhere to be– I go to bed probably after 1am on a regular basis.
Second: SLEEPING ENVIRONMENT
It took me several years to admit and enforce a quiet, dark, no electronic in use sleep environment. I still have a problem when I get stuck playing a game. And several times as a kid I had to play a tap player, CD player or as an adult set a timer to paly music to help focus me to sleep. Right now I do have several black out masks, including one that links to music. If I am not 100% completely comfortable, I cannot sleep. So temperature has to be lower, no socks unless absolutely necessary and i have officially “stolen” my son’s weighted blanket on top of my normal comforter. I also LOVE a dog sleeping on my bed, so i make sure I’m cuddled up next to my puppy-dog. Before doing this–I realized i would toss/turn. If the temperature is not right I cannot sleep at all. I’m trying to remember what I was like as a kid, but my mom said I was sleeping in large beds because I move really young. Me getting good quality sleep is rare. What I love best is that my husband has supported this and understands that a lot of health problems can improve from just good overall sleep.
Caffeine hasn’t always been a problem for me but now it is. I noticed closer to bedtime if I drink high caffeine, the harder I can shut down. Watching movies that are psychological thrillers or horror are also a problem because my brain is still processing them hours after I see them. Its best me just watching fun TV shows, shows I already understand (like series) or a fun movie or calm movie. Dreams can be triggered with anything too emotional or too trigger oriented so I try to watch for those too.
Fourth: WAKING UP
Getting up is HARD for me. I’m talking 3-4 alarms (bug my husband) sleepy half-awake for at least an hour before I’m really going.
I also do NOT like to be awakened early suddenly. I can be very unpolite that early in the morning. I have even told family and friends to have minimal conversations and nothing serious before 9am due to this situation. I even told my mom “no talking to me before xx time” when i lived at home and it made life a lot better.
So learning about ADHD/autism and PCOS in the last 5 years has really showed me where I fit in. The issues i have with staying awake, feeling like I don’t get enough sleep and having trouble waking up despite 10 hours of sleep are all related to these health issues that have been with me my whole life. And while definition does not change my reality– it does help me search for a community more supportive of my needs (up late all the time) and to search for more efficient help.
Have you ever thought about your sleeping habits? Comment below! who knows-maybe you’ll get some insight on a sleeping habit you’ve been trying to work on! 🙂 zzz…z…zzz..