Finally the day has come. I can finally let the world know : Shawn and I are….MOVING!
I have spent much of the last two month keeping quiet about this–mostly because I didn’t want to deal with people’s thoughts and opinions on picking a house they would never be living in or perhaps never see. But now that its over (well, almost, we’re picking up the truck saturday 5/3), I can let out some things I have learned in the last few months.
1) GET AN GOOD AGENT: I heard a friend at church mention this once when her and her husband were looking for a new house to live in and I remember thinking–“Why?” but trust me–after experiencing the ups and downs of home-buying, offering, going to open houses and such–a good agent is important. Our agent helped us sell our home in Anaheim along with find us a good home in Rancho Cucamonga, where we wanted to be. And he handled working out details and making the 3-5 calls A DAY to confirm about our offer and the paperwork and everything else. And he didn’t treat us like we knew nothing about home-buying (which we kind of did). I would say, unless you are trained or you live in an area that is not super competitive for home-buying (i.e. NOT california), then I suggest getting a good agent. It will save your sanity.
2) LET THINGS GO: During a home buying process, there is a lot of give & tug. Buyers want perfect homes, sellers want the most for the money and yet these are two things they have little control over. I thank God that we were able to get a good buyer for the Anaheim house that let us stay rent free in the home an additional 30 days so we could find our next home. Not many people any luxury close to this and frankly, it helped me trust him more with letting my mom’s house go to just anyone. But that is something I had no control over and I think that’s the most important thing to remember: some things you can’t control and you just have to let it go (i’d get all cliche but we all know God’s there anyways and “letting God” … just sounds like a puppet on strings and that’s the not the relationship I have with my awesome Creator.”)
3) COMMUNICATE: if you don’t like something-say so. If you can’t bare the idea of living 50 feet from a firehouse, mention it. Especially if you are moving into a place with your spouse. BOTH your opinions count–its a learning experience especially if you haven’t been together that long. I recommended not purchasing your first home right when you get married–it only complicates things and you have not had time to learn each other as a couple. Especially if you did not live together before marriage. I’ve seen things like this break relationships and cause riffs between people. Probably should go back to advice #2 above if it gets like this.
4) TAKE A DEEP BREATHE AND RELAX: this one doesn’t needed explaining, just something that needs to be put into practice. See #2 and #3 for reference points.
I hope that helps people. Also it’s probably not a good idea to do this whole in your last quarter of school and trying to work on career development at work. But it wouldn’t be my life if it wasn’t exciting, right?