So my last few posts have been a transformation of this blogs purpose and focus. And while time has passed since my last post, I still wanted to write out a blog about how others can really help the nuerodivergent community
1) LISTEN — Seek out the voices that truly struggle and lend an ear. Don’t try to fix us or change us. Just like in mental and emotional health, we do not need change or others fixing us and if we have something to work on, we will need to be the ones to work on it. It is better to listen and hear what we have to say. Cause I guarantee most of us don’t like too much people interaction and
2) Walk with us — I don’t know how many people have seen where an autistic person has a meltdown and the most calming action was another to lay down beside them to let them know all is okay. It is true. Sometimes we need just presence. Don’t touch us. Don’t talk. Are you kidding? We can’t respond.
3) Do your research! — think about the companies you support or frequent and who the back. Do they help other neurodivergent people? Do they focus on money or on humans? You don’t have to be perfect. But stepping towards realizing your choices and actions affect others is a good step.
This is a little short blog, so I hope it gets your mind thinking. Neurodivergent people need help—but maybe not in the way you think.
insert image of THE yellow pad.
Yeah, um…its all coming.
Way back when, for some unknown reason, My brain went on a rampage writing down everything. To the point I had to bring a yellow traditional notepad with me wherever we went (which was driving around to 4-5 places not getting out of the car) all the while ideas for blogs and topics were just flooding into my head. The first part was mostly gibberish, but then I finally realized I could connect all of these ideas and started writing them down in some type of order.
The reason I posted this is I wanted to show why my brain thinks differently. This wasn’t controlled or something I turned on. It was sudden, immediate and completely blocking my brain of any real train of thought. It wouldn’t stop–it was painful to stop it while I was driving. And when I asked my husband to get the pencil out of my purse because I couldn’t find it with the notepad, I could feel myself tense up, get anxious and not think of anything else excepting getting that pencil. My brain would not shut it off.
This is what a hyperfocus info dump feels and acts like. It’s an overtaking obsession. It can be debilitating. And its just one of my autistic traits that can be both beneficial and detrimental to my general health.
Continuing my new updates to my blog. I have decided I am going to try and organize my page a little better. As you may have noticed (or may not, depends if I get the layout changed by this blog, likely not-see ADHD issues), there are new tabs to see new topics. Since I have partially made it my goal to be a voice among female autistic/ADHD-ers, I am going to focus on the neurodiversity aspect of my life.
Here are the topics:
ND Life: just general things going on. there may be sub titles such as “Struggles” and “Thinking it Out Loud”… we shall see where this goes. Some categories may be separate. “Special Interests” and “Stimming”
ND SocialMed: evaluating social media. yep, i’m doing it. Scary. Trying to approach it in a different way. I need to. Stress and mental health call my name on it.
ND Career/Ed: looking at my MSIDT stuff. I will not be talking about my current job as much as possible. I feel that is both protecting me and paying respect to my current employer.
ND Faith: thoughts on belief/faith/etc. Watch out–my theology is showing.
ND Support, Q&A: these are more for those reading wondering how to help those with similar issues.
ND Parenting: for 2 legged kids and 4 legged. Grant it my kid is ND too, so helpful insight there. I also have pets and have some thoughts on that.
ND Relate: relationships–either thru friends or other people.
More categories may come and go but I thought it would be helpful. Hopefully we can all learn a little from this
If not you, then who?That Au-Some Incubator: Education, Advocacy, Collaboration
Hello everyone!— so i wantes to let you know about an awesome group one of my FB friends is starting up. If you want to make a difference in the world for other autistics, THIS is one of several places to start!
Come join us!
Or 2021 at this rate. But wherever you are, you’re here! and that’s important!
I’m pretty sure this is something MANY of us have thought throughout the year. So in the spirit of our hopes and desires… I decided to restart/revamp my blog. I know I’ve been quiet for a while. Partially intentional, partially unintentional. There is a lot going on behind the scenes (see the 8/9/2020 post) but honestly, I had a partial writer’s block and lack of motivation. And started school. And took leave for medication changes.
2020 has been the curve ball from left field that bounced off third base player’s shoe only to result in a double play with no runs scored. For those not into baseball (oh sad day….), this is like the impossible downward spiral bad play. The random craziness that just kept ensuing. Even as we speak in October, we have moved into a hurricane season that ran out of names and we just lost Van Halen.
So hopefully this change and update will be helpful! There is still some good in the world. I managed to get real good help. I started my degree program for instructional design (my new and amazing passion and study) and I am finally freely to be ME!
SO enjoy the new posts as them come! And hopefully 2020 will be over soon.